An enemy becomes a real friend.

I had a colleague whom I thought of as the bane of my existence for five years.  I had reason to believe that this person, who wielded considerable power in the structure of my workplace,  was determined to get me fired, so I avoided all contact, constructing an invisible wall around myself, all the while feeling unsafe and resentful.  Meanwhile the hostile colleague continued to lob things at me over the wall.  During a time when we served together on a committee, my colleague came under attack for a very minor transgression, an awkward social gaffe really.  My spontaneous response to this was to speak out in defense of my “enemy” – something I didn’t think out in advance and never expected to find myself doing.   Almost overnight, this person’s negativity towards me melted entirely away.  Gradually, we became more and more comfortable with each other, and today (many years later) we remain very good friends, sharing many common interests.  Strangely, it now feels to me that the attacks this person aimed at me were actually a way of seeking connection, though not one that I would recommend.  Underneath all the negative drama was love, trying to emerge.   This experience has been for me one of the great lessons of my life.

Shared on January 9, 2019 in Story.
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AS I drop in, I am aware of warmth radiating from my heart, there is a sense of bubbling mirth in my chest and throat as my mouth smiles! Thank you for this beautiful share!!


Responded on March 12, 2019.

Hi Nancy! I appreciate your understanding, your enthusiasm, friendliness, and generosity in responding to my sharing. I hope you are well and still sharing The Virtues Project with people.

on March 14, 2019.
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I,too, can’t stop the smile from moving inside after reading your story! Joyful expanse and radiance pervades all negativity. Thanks for sharing.

Responded on March 14, 2019.

“Joyful expanse and radiance pervades all negativity.” – Beautiful and profound!


on March 14, 2019.
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