Exhausted from providing support

As I write this, I feel an exhausted heaviness overcoming my eyes, tightness in my neck and jaw and tension around my head. I’ve just spent the past few hours supporting a friend through a hardship she is experiencing, a situation that is somewhat frightening. The weight of her predicament sits in my stomach, vaguely reminding me of my own trauma when I experienced a similar situation year ago. My breath feels a bit short and tight. I am okay, but I am tired of these long days recently, one thing after another. I am grateful and honored to support her and I know I am the only person who can help in this particular way. But I am also deeply tired, both physically and emotionally, and trying not to be too worried about the outcome. The exhaustion seems to help soften some of the tension in my stomach, but my upper body remains tight.

Shared on November 6, 2019 in Story.
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I feel a mixture of love and constriction when I read this. I feel a warmth for you and a desire for you to be well. I also feel a weightiness, heaviness, constriction and feeling of hopelessness around the bottom of my ribcage. I hope that there is a way for things to all work out. I find a sense of relief in opening to the possibility of deep equanimity.

Responded on November 6, 2019.

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Reading your words, I feel sensations that mirror what you describe: warmth for your warmth, heaviness for your heaviness, relief for your relief. Spaciousness at the end of your comment.

on November 11, 2019. Edit Delete
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As I read this my chest felt tight, yet a softness behind it. It requires a lot of courage to hold space for others in their processes because we also get a glimpse of ourselves. I feel some tension in my neck almost as if holding back to some words thats really want to come out or tears.  I send tender love to you, holding you and your friend in this moment, she is very lucky to have you.

Responded on November 7, 2019.

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Thank you, Laura. I feel a sense of melting and release as I read your compassionate words. A spacious lightness that comes with the holding.

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I know a similar place in me. While I’m supporting a friend in need, I often feel open, present, caring. Afterward I feel how much energy I burned through without realizing it. But I’d still do it again. Alive and tired.

Thanks for sharing.

Responded on November 11, 2019.

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Alive and tired… this is so true!

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