How do I accomplish what I need to and take good care of myself as well?
In starting AskLove, there are just so many things I’m excited about and that need to be done. I find myself working these crazy hours, and right now, I can’t imagine being able to work less. We need to get the dialog going and there are so many aspects of outreach and strategic relationship building, advisory council development and on and on. These aren’t “nice to haves”, they are “must haves”.
Don’t get me wrong – starting AskLove has been one of the greatest honors and joys of my life. I hope it helps so many people and makes an impact in our world. What could be more meaningful and beautiful than facilitating the blossoming of heart-based wisdom?
The issue really is just my body and the volume of what needs to be done. I don’t know how I could take my foot off of the gas pedal, and so I’m in this conundrum. How can I take good care of myself and give this community my best as well?
Hi Bruce, I’m hearing a inner voice, inside you, that wants to continue responding wisely and kindly towards both yourself and the people around you but feel that the current path is a bit off centre and unsustainable long term. It sounds like there is inner conflict to be embraced even when we are as closely aligned with the flow of universal love as you are right now. It appears that there are limitations to this human form and self care and balance is the fuel we need to keep flying, flowing, loving, being present to ourselves and others.
I find this quote by Marshall Rosenberg come to me just now.
When behaviour come into conflict with a deeply held value, it is usually the behaviour that changes.
Great question Bruce. I am guessing your mind is moving at a pretty rapid clip and you keep going over an inventory of what needs to be done. A community takes on a life of its own that transcends any one individual. Can you trust that communal life? Bringing a project like ask love into the world is a lot like having a child. At first it can’t roll over on its own and you have to keep the diapers changed. Soon it starts to walk and for a while you hover to ensure its safety. Eventually it goes off on its own. Foremost, can you put you faith in the inspiration that brought ask love into being? (Being able to say no sometimes helps a lot too).
Hi Bruce —
I completely get the conundrum. I’ve been in that myself recently with lots of exciting, meaningful projects and people counting on me to come through. But, what I’m learning, is that taking care of myself and taking care of my communities is not an either/or proposition. Taking care of your self is also taking care of your community. While internally it may feel like everything will fall apart if you’re not diligent 24/7, the truth is giving yourself some time to breathe and take care of yourself opens you up to even more caring and wisdom that you can turn around and offer your community. And no one doubts your love and care for this baby, and if you said “hey, folks, need to a bit of a breather after giving birth”, I think you would be 100% supported and held.
So, breathe, Bruce, breathe. You’ve given a lot. Allow others to give you.