How do you sincerely and empathetically reach out to someone who (unknowingly) suffers from ‘fight or flight’ syndrome?
This person’s become passive aggressive through distance, so it’s tricky. I have a sense that deep down they are aware of it, but there’s a denial around it – hence, ‘fight or flight.’ I really love and care about this friend, and want to help because I can clearly see they could really benefit from some love and compassion. Any advice on how to approach this?
Interestingly, I find by taking care of myself, the other person may or may not become aware of their own unskillful behavior. If I attempt to educate another, it tends not to be well received. If I tell them what works for me and what does not work for me, either they get the message or they don’t. Then I have to decide what my own self care requires of me. In my case, I am not comfortable with passive aggressive behavior so I would tell the person what does not work for me without judgment, simply as information and then if necessary withdraw from the situation if my needs are not respected. I also have to work on letting go of my attachment to another behaving in a way I prefer. Best of luck.